Are You Facing a Problem Or a Fact of Life?

A problem or a fact of life?

There are problems that don’t have a solution. Death is one example. It ceases to be a problem, for we can do nothing about it. We can preserve a dead body inside a glass coffin as what Imelda Marcos did to her husband Ferdinand (Philippine dictator for 20 years!) for around 22 years. Marcos didn’t wake up until now. I was there at Marcos’ viewable grave. I felt bad inside me, for why make such a disgusting spectacle. Who is he in history books, by the way? Death is a fact of life, not a problem, because it doesn’t have a solution at all!

Being not good-looking is a fact of life and plastic surgery is a temporary solution only to the fact.

If you don’t like your face, your looks-–well, you can have you face changed as what Michael Jackson did to his. To the poorer ones, they say, that if your problem is your face, don’t face the problem! Well, that’s more humor than reality, for you cannot avoid seeing your looks after the invention of the mirror. Being not good-looking is a fact of life and plastic surgery is a temporary solution only to the fact!

The truth is that we are sometimes less victorious with our problems, because the first rule in solving them is acceptance that they indeed exist and that they have respective solutions. For, without a solution, a problem becomes a fact of life, and thus ceases to exist (as a problem).

Most of the time, our problems are just our own making.

The other issue that is of interest is that most of our problems are simply our own making. A man reaps what he sows, says the Good Book.

The sick and twisted doesn't have a problem with his guilt as if his conscience malfunctions. Such is a fact of his riotous life, too.

I think to be truly at peace with ourselves, the first thing that we need to do is to identify what area of our being is susceptible to the harassment of our own guilt. If you don’t feel guilty killing people, for instance, then your keen sense of good moral judgment is defective, hence the prison cell is no problem to you. For you understand that it is always a part of you. Committing a crime is just very natural to you; it is part of your being a killer and a criminal. There is no true peace however to the sinner, even if he has a twisted and sick conscience and a wrestled sense of guilt.

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Why are Good Looking Women Becoming Worthless and Unloved?

Good looking women becoming worthless and unloved.

I have a question: why do most beautiful women seem to be more unloved than most of the seemingly uglier ones? Have you heard of a beautiful woman having no husband, a single mom and unloved? Whereas, her not so good-looking neighbor of her age was loved, and had a husband who's willing to die for her?

My answer is simple: most beautiful women don't understand the dynamics of man-woman (or husband-wife) relationship. What is that? They normally demand value for their beauty, just like selling something that's of good quality. "If you truly love me," demands Miss Beautiful, "you must provide me all my wants. After all, "a thing of beauty is a joy forever" (Keats). Well, that kind of an attitude is acceptable, for behind the success of most women lies beauty, good looks, pleasing personality! But as regards marital union, most beauties are happier as an employee than as a wife, so to speak. For most of them don't understand that men marry for the sake of life partnership, not for the sake of having someone to behold on to, like beholding a diamond ring one wore daily.

Most men prefer a long lasting relationship and partnership, which is more than the lifespan of beauty.

Yes, what would life partnership look like when Miss Beautiful requires her man to "worship" her good looks and loveliness? With all the natural gifts of most movie female superstars--their acting, singing, good looks, popularity--only a handful of them landed a good marriage, and only by sacrificing their career.

Have you heard of this expression: "I buried two husbands already!" This is coming from most widows (mostly old and losing any trace of good looks already!) who understand man's love better than most failed-in-marriage celebrities.

Man's love, I mean the love of a responsible and mature man, is always anchored on life partnership, not on beauty per se. For, marrying a woman for the sake of beauty is just like buying a house for the sake of the paint.

Successful wives never demand value of their beauty but rather on their character.

If your wife is so beautiful and so good a partner, then you're a lucky man, like the man who won a lotto jackpot!

My simple and unsolicited advice to beautiful women is this: submit yourselves to your own husbands and never pretend to be superior to men, for women were created as "help mate" of men. Go to your Bible if you think I am pretending authority on the issue of good-looking-women becoming worthless and unloved.

May I reiterate: Why is it that most beautiful women are either divorcees or simply abandoned or single parents, whereas the uglier ones have men beside them willing to die for them in the name of love? Well, it is because Miss Beautiful is demanding too much value on her beauty, and less value on her character.

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Most Wives are Just Pretending to be Weak and Submissive

The Woman's Ability to be More Patient

It is easier for the woman to understand her husband, than for the man to his wife. One reason lies on the woman's ability to be truly patient, which men don't naturally possess. There is indeed power in patience. That is why most men are easily cowed by their wives in a way so subtle that no husband can easily detect such patience-based wife power.

Wives are Pretending to be Weak and Submissive

I think true peace at home between husband and wife has to start somewhere, perhaps right at the husband's clear understanding of his impulsive manner and on his wife's ability to patiently pretend to be weak and submissive. The Biblical prescription is for the man to understand his wife as a "weaker vessel" and for the latter to be always submissive to him. Most wives don't truly submit to their own husbands, for the simple reason that they are not loved the way they wanted to. Peace at home is elusive if the husband doesn't understand that Eve was created differently, from a piece of man's bone in contrast to Adam's dust-origin.

How to Understand a Woman?

We can truly understand a woman only if we employ scriptural teachings. The woman was tempted first, not the man. There's indeed validity to one survey that wives are more adulterous than husbands in most democratic societies. I should say every husband should keep this in mind: wives are not required by God to love, but only to obey their own husbands. If submission to one's husband is absent, then the monkeying of the wife is always a possibility--most especially if she is good looking and earning more!

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The Dark Reality Inside Us As Manisfested in Our Confused and Inconsistent Views on What is Right

The Dark Reality Inside Us

Why is it that we are not improving, for example, in our moral values and judgments, in spite of the explosion of knowledge and the endless establishment of school institutions? It seems we don't advance ourselves. We are improving in many aspects of our life as we witness the advent of mobile phones and other technological wonders of our generation. The U.S. has the capability, and we all know that, of waging war from its warships, even without sending troops on the ground. Based on our achievements, our skyscrapers, our computers--we are super humans! Yet, inside us, we are no different from the people of this world 500 years ago—we tend monkey our ways. We are left behind, while all around us are making progress. Survey shows that most convicts and prostitutes alike are diploma holders. Moreover, why do we love to decorate our bodies with tattoos, or at least, approve those actors and actresses wearing them, when this practice belonged only to the unschooled and wicked people from ages long past and forgotten? Why is it that most of our young, particularly movie personalities, would want to portray themselves as being bad and wild people? Why? Why most girls tend to love the bad boys and to frown at the good ones? Who is twisting our minds to love the unlovely, and to do what is tabooed and deemed unnatural and inhuman? Most movies are making lovely actresses as whores and vampires—what’s happening, why are we this squirmed? We seemed confused and inconsistent!

The Reality Inside That Seems Confused and Inconsistent

There’s indeed something wrong somewhere in this world. Most of the Arabs are anti-American, but are more than willing to die for the American brand of democracy. What’s happening to us? If America would send troops to Libya, to let its soldiers die for the freedom of a nation who hated them so much (because of Israel!), the opinion of the region is that the U.S. is interested of Libyan oil. But if America would just fold its hand, people around would begin to say: What kind of a leader is America? What a weak foreign policy?

Even Our Educational System Failed to Give Us Some Light on What is Right

Now, what’s happening to our educational system? There are surveys that show more functional illiteracy yearly in most countries. After graduation, our children tend to act as if they are unschooled—illiterates! Isn’t this phenomenon simply the result of too much modernization—of information overload? There’s indeed something wrong somewhere, indeed.

Our Church Leaders Seem to Love the People More than God's Truth Making Us All the More Confused

Pope Francis of the Catholic Church is one edifice of religious confusion. When asked about gay priests, he answered: "Who am I to judge?" And this is the culmination of Pope Francis most confused philosophy published at huffingtonpost.com:

"God is in everyone's life. Even if the life of a person has been a disaster, even if it is destroyed by vices, drugs or anything else_God is in this person's life."

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This pronouncement is equivalent to saying that God is a party to sin. On the contrary, the Bible said that Mary Magdalene, during the days of her prostitution, was ruled by 7 demons. (cf. Mark 16:9). This is the common mindset of a leader, religious or otherwise as in the case of President Obama who approved gay marriage, who loves the people more than God. For the Bible says, that Church leaders are ambassadors or spokespersons of God. They should not put words into God's mouth. They should not use a "Who am I to judge" argument, because God has a word for gay people already that they cannot "inherit the kingdom of God." Observe this verse in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10:

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.(NASB)

Conclusion

The dark reality inside us as manifested in our confused and inconsistent views on what is right requires, to use a Bible doctrine, the intervention of God's Spirit who will teach us all truth. Outside of God, we will continue on to deteriorate in the areas of moral standards just like the legalization of gay marriage.

What do you think? May you drop your comments below.

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